I remember when folks wore shoes that needed polishing.

My mom passed a few years ago and had a little $ in a Roth account. Just my sister and I and neither felt good about taking it. She left it up to me, so I decided to split it among her 3 grandkids. I think she would have approved.

I am like the brothers in Secondhand Lion. The kid gets it all.

I was my moms only child, she passed 11/29/21. I can tell you now I feel extremely lucky I didn't have to deal with any of this kind of stuff, because in the state of mind I was in after her passing it would not have ended well for anyone trying to take something they weren't entitled to.

I have a very good friend who had an experience talked about here. His father had a fairly new wife 3rd or 4th, I can't remember, he was diagnosed with cancer and passed fairly quickly. When they went to read the will, he had amended it just a few months before his death giving this new wife half of his estate (not something he would have done). In going through his fathers things my friend found a hand written letter from the wife telling his dad if he didn't amend his will, she'd leave him and he could die alone. In some ways I'm kind of surprised his dad didn't tell him or at the very least tell her to kick rocks. After a long court battle they managed to get it down to 1/3rd instead of half, but I'm sure the legal battle wasn't cheap. That woman is the scum of the earth as far as I'm concerned.

The last chapter of The Vagina Rules discusses taking care of older men and getting something for it.

ok "fancy"

One of the huge lessons I've learned, hearing and experiencing the stories of some of the men I've known that have passed over the years, is that you can really screw up your children's inheritance by a., getting lonely, and b., not handling your "companion/aka 'Lady Friend"" properly." The ranch I'm sitting on, the kids had to buy the barfly a lot and trailer in town to make her go away. I'm a few years younger than my wife. I worry about these things. No one is gonna...mess...with my kids inheritance. I struggle with this. Maybe He'll take me first.

Bummed that my parents didn’t have much to leave. But not having a sibling to fight over it more than made up for it. I’d take no dollars vs family drama any day. Seen it at its worst.

There has been empires crumbled and fortunes lost over that stuff.

A friend of mines dad was a family law attorney

He met a much younger woman late in life and married her but had her sign a pre nup

He said after his dad died and when the dust settled, it was still much cheaper to give the younger step mom some land and make her go away

I know this estate was worth several million and she could have held up everything for years

It was really a sad deal when he told me all the details

As stated, death and air travel brings out the worst in people. I’ve known multiple “men” that have made a living off family members dying. No count if you ask me.

It was her one chance, she couldn’t let her down

If I die my wife gets everything right off the bat with the exception of a few guns who will go to ( hopefully ) surviving friends. She can divvy up anything after that to who she sees fit. All I ask is that my mounts don’t end up in some sh**** restaurant like Texas Roadhouse.

In the event we meet our demise together, we have everything set up in a trust with an executor to determine proper dispersal of funds and property. Naturally, this will have to be amended over time, as situations, attitudes and the like can change, but hopefully this will discourage much bickering and fighting.

My dad passed several years back and we split what he little he had pretty equally between me and my sister…that side of the family is very level headed and logic and common sense out-rule emotion.

If something happened to my Mom, I’m torn between giving everything to my sister just so I won’t have to deal with it or taking my portion as compensation for pain and suffering.

My wife’s cousin, her husband, and their two kids were all killed when an underaged drunk driver blew through a red light at over 100 mph. It obviously made the news in their small town. That’s where some of these “human vultures” decided to break into their house and take everything of value. Totally ransacked the place.

Not sure which is worse when family steals from one another, or Scum that is not even related does what Greg mentioned above?

When one of my brother in laws died, my wife was having his will prepared by his attorney, but out of the blue a new will appeared from his "friends". They just thought he had died without a will. So after years of lawsuits and collecting his cars and what possessions were left, the vagrants disappeared. So did all of his guns, tools, and everything else of value but the bare land. They tried to get that too under Texas squatter law. I remember reclaiming his almost new Grand Marquis after the court order and the "friend" asked if he could remove "his" lawn mower and tools from the trunk. He was out mowing lawns from it. The other car was stolen by another friend both being driven uninsured and registered to the dead guy. Who do you think would be responsible? Oh he lets me use it....really?

That's sub-human stuff right there. 'Very sad the level that some can sink to.

The FIL's service is still several days away (scheduling for some grandsons), but I've thought several times that someone should sit at the house that day to deter "obituary bandits". All of his "buddies", everyone knew he was crazy about guns, the house is just a few blocks away from the true west side of San Antonio, and it's not what you'd call "secure". I have accepted the fact that something or things are bound to disappear. I just don't want the MIL to get upset.

When my dad checks out there is to be no services, no public notifications, no hoopla. Let him set the required 48 hours and slide him in oven (prepaid and inexpensive version), Go pick up the shoe box when cooled and ready for pick up and catch good wind and it's done. That is what he desires providing step mom and others don't decide to post all over social media! I will load up the ashes and haul him to the ranch and let grand kids that never have time to come see him enjoy his company one last time, probate will as he has wrote down and let life go on. Vultures show up thinking there is classic pre 64 model 70 in their future they are going to be disappointed, if it ain't documented you outa luck.

My Father In Law died years ago. He was a member of a church and had pledged to give a certain amount of money to the church that year. Well he passes away and the preacher of the church approached my Mother in Law and wanted to make sure that she would honor what he had pledged. After that church meant a lot less to me. They were more interested in money than comforting and saving souls.

Years ago, I attended a Lutheran church in Fredericksburg. The senior pastor was found to be visiting recently widowed women and talking them into signing their ranches over to him. He was also over reporting his pay to the synod to pad his retirement account. So, he was not punished and just sent down the road to another victim church. He’s still a pastor in Texas. Hot corner in Hell awaiting him!

Here is a good one from back in the early 80's...My mom only had one sibling, a sister. My grandfather was a doctor who did well in Missouri. So obviously when my grandmother passed away, he married one of his nurses!! they were married a few years and my grandfather passed away. Multi million dollar estate. My mother and her sister never even got to go and get anything from their childhood, the second wife got everything and when she died a few in the 90's she left everything to her brother. Mom never really said a word about it.