Pair a gas operated semi with a 7/8 oz 2 3/4" target load and except for the sound you won't even know it went off.

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I can shoot two rounds of sporting clays with my sx3 in a tee shirt and not feel it later. If you're really a pansy you can get a beretta with the kickoff system, that's what my 110 lb wife uses to sling her 3.5's at snows

I have an Extrema 12ga with the kick-off system. I've used it with loads as light as 3/4 oz with no problems. On a lark, and with permission from the range owner, a group of us shot a complete round of skeet (100 shots) using nothing but 3.5" duck/goose steel shot loads. The kick-off reduced the recoil to what you might feel from a 1 1/4 oz 2 3/4" load. All of us were rather amazed at how much lighter the recoil was. (it did a number on the targets as well!)

I've been partial to the Beretta's for a while. They fit me well right out of the box and felt recoil is minimal. find a used 391 somewhere and you'll be good to go.

Beretta Extrema is the lightest kicking shotgun I own and have ever shot, but I still like my Ithaca 37 a little more.

My wife says get a 22 with rat shot if you're that scared of recoil

Remington 1100 is the lightest recoil.

Lightest recoil in a shotgun you can depend on? Beretta.

Sissy.

BIL, just go with a 20....you're giving up very little in lead and even less in pattern. If needed you can always use 3" shells.

And put a brake on it

I have a Weatherby SA-08 12ga and it's a joy to shoot dove with. I swear it kicks less than my full-size Rem 1100 20ga, and it won't break the bank.

Benelli Montifeltro (SP) the 20 weights just 5.5 lbs. and handles 3 " shells. Super light and no felt recoil compared to the other shotguns I own. Far and away my favorite to shoot all day.