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 In the Dog House
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10/07/08 11:35 PM
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h20thief
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I've been married for 16 years and hunting for 25. My lovely bride knew what she married into. How many of you are beat up about the "deer lease"? Any magic words of wisdom or ideas on keeping it bearable? I told her from March to Sept. 1 I was hers, after that, its hunting time. She says she doesnt "complain about the lease and the cost" but whats the first words outta her mouth when I said something about mailing the lease payment? You guessed it and I cant put it in writing. How many of you have "slush" fund accounts that she may not know about just for hunting? Maggie, any help for a hunter who cant win??? Come on guys fess up, we are all friend here. 
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 Re: In the Dog House
[Re: h20thief]
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10/07/08 11:43 PM
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Tell her if she dont like it then she can pack her s*** and leave! I bet she wont leave, and I bet she wont gripe about it anymore either! 
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: h20thief]
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10/07/08 11:49 PM
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Alright dear. I guess I'll just sit around drinking beer in my underwear, scratchin itches on my back side all weekend. Almost forgot, but the guys are gonna come over early for the football games on Saturday, and Bubba was wondering is he could just occupy the guest bed since he usually gets too loaded to drive home. Besides, the NFL game is Sunday anyways. She'll have you packed before you get home from work Friday.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: JCB]
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10/08/08 01:19 AM
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Crazyhorse
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: h20thief]
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10/08/08 01:19 AM
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BigBow
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I've been married for 16 years and hunting for 25. My lovely bride knew what she married into. How many of you are beat up about the "deer lease"? Any magic words of wisdom or ideas on keeping it bearable? I told her from March to Sept. 1 I was hers, after that, its hunting time.
She says she doesnt "complain about the lease and the cost" but whats the first words outta her mouth when I said something about mailing the lease payment? You guessed it and I cant put it in writing. How many of you have "slush" fund accounts that she may not know about just for hunting?
Maggie, any help for a hunter who cant win??? Come on guys fess up, we are all friend here.
how have you ben married for 16 yrs and this is just now comming up?
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: BlackSnake]
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10/08/08 01:20 AM
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bassackwards dav
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I would tell my wife of thirty one yrs shes probly right.The lease things getting old.Honey I think Ill sell my ranger bass boat and go to Alaska hunting for 30 days ,besides my boats three yrs old and that way I can buy a new one when I get back because they will be cheaper in the winter.Maybe next yr Ill sell it and go to africa.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: JCB]
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10/08/08 01:26 AM
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caddokiller
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WELL I LOVE MY WIFE AND ALL BUT IF SHE EVER GAVE MY ANY SH** ABOUT HUNTING TIME OR THE COST OF IT WED HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM. I SAY PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN ABOUT IT AND SHE'LL GET OVER IT.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: BlackSnake]
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10/08/08 01:27 AM
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rstewlandman
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I dont hide money in a slush fund, we communicate, I say I'm going huntin, this is what it costs, you take some of OUR money and go have a girl week(end). Together, On Paper, On purpose....slush fund she doesnt know about would be a lie....lies are not good for marriages. The other side of this is that this is what you love, at least what I love, and I make that well known, I try to respect what she loves so I can do what I love....JMO, work the angle of how it makes you feel, women understand feelings..I know we dont talk about feelings, but it will work, maybe she'll get it, but at the least will know your not going to lay down ever on this issue
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: JCB]
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10/08/08 01:31 AM
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J.P. Greeson
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Does it have anything to do with the economy? She may be worried because your net worth is down if you have money in the market. Just tell her hunting is not something you can not give up.
On the flip side, it may be a good time to lock in a 3 to 5 year lease.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: rstewlandman]
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10/08/08 01:35 AM
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bassackwards dav
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I think theres honest wisdom in what your saying and in the thirty one yrs with my wife honest communication is the only real solution.But I still try the Tarzan stuff first.
bassackwards dav
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: J.P. Greeson]
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10/08/08 01:35 AM
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MaggieMTx
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Re: In the Dog House
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10/08/08 01:37 AM
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MaggieMTx
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OK...in just about EVERY situation (hunting related or not) you have to give, to get.
Ok thats all I have for now, I may add more later.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: J.P. Greeson]
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10/08/08 01:39 AM
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I guess I am lucky wife has never said a word about cost, or going to the lease and is helping me save for Africa trip. I am glad to have never had those issues!
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: JCB]
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10/08/08 01:39 AM
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Crazyhorse
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I went thru one, it took right at 17 years, but she finally got tired of me not growing up. In many respects, she was a great lady, but she grew up and went one way and I stayed a 5 year old. Lora and I have been married for 16 years and she says that as long as I can figure out how to pay for it and what we will do with all of the meat. The only reason I never went to Africa was because me and her both don't like the idea of Trophy Only hunts. At least going to Canada, we were able to bring all or most of the meat home and enjoy it. Me and her just really ain't into feeding all the starving pygmies in Africa.  Wives sometimes are the anchor we need from going completely renegade. JMO.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: JCB]
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10/08/08 01:44 AM
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TreeBass
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Tell her if she dont like it then she can pack her s*** and leave!
I bet she wont leave, and I bet she wont gripe about it anymore either!
Good advice
I don't have that issue, just as long as I take her out there to shoot a deer at least once a season 
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: TreeBass]
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10/08/08 02:00 AM
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I see a lot of guys go through this. I haven't ventured into this territory since I have been married, but I really haven't needed to. I hunt on a friends property that is teaming with wild game. There are only three of us hunting on the property and since bow season has opened we have already taken 1 deer and 3 hogs and are seeing hogs, deer, and turkey in huge numbers. I plan to buy a property though and that is when the stuff is going to hit the fan around here. I realize that any property leased or hunt for free can be here today and gone tomorrow and I'd rather own where I hunt so I can't have it yanked out from under me like a lot of folks have happen on leases due to people willing to pay more money for property someone else has been leasing. My wife has learned one thing after being married to me for 17 years, if I set my mind to something don't fight it, it only makes me want it even more and once I have fully comitted and go after something I usually get it.
Last edited by lakewaydr50; 10/08/08 02:02 AM.
Isaiah 40:31 "but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: h20thief]
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10/08/08 02:57 AM
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Hunting is more to me than Antlers on the wall. It's more about the memories you make, and sharing those memories with friends, and family.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: Double_Drop_Tines]
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10/08/08 03:07 AM
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Mr. Clean
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I get Mileage money for work....that seems to get rat holed for these types of things. .52 cents a mile.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: Double_Drop_Tines]
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10/08/08 10:29 AM
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HWY_MAN
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," Buy her a Diamond, that'll shut her up"!
It cost me a new CTS Caddie, this year. But it is fun to drive. 300+HP 
Yes! A Weatherby does kill them deader.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: HWY_MAN]
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10/08/08 12:49 PM
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Guys I just take mine with me. The only thing that sucks about that is that you have to buy two of everything. The only time I get lip out of her is when I get a new gun she ask where is mine. Heck on the pocket book but no problems going hunting here.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: h20thief]
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10/08/08 01:04 PM
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Secret accounts aren't necessary. If it's basically just a financial issue for her, have her sit down with you and work it out on paper. Sounds too basic probably, but I think if she realized you weren't going to "take food off the table", she might not be so vocal about it. How many of you guys are fully aware of all the monthly expenses/bills? Do you help pay bills, or do you let her do it all? It's a good idea for both of you to know exactly what amount is coming in, and going out. I think if you are the primary bread winner you should have a say in how you spend some of the extra, however, you never want to flat out say "I make it, I'll spend it how I like!" Not cool! I'm sure you can work out some kind of "savings" idea that will make you both happy.
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: TX_Huntress]
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10/08/08 01:16 PM
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Slush fund.... you mean the Secert, secert account that statements come online to your work email, or a secert Credit card that the bill comes to the office...
Have no idea what you guys are talking about.
Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, b/c they know not victory nor defeat"- #26 TR
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: TX_Huntress]
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10/08/08 01:19 PM
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lakewaydr50
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Secret accounts aren't necessary. If it's basically just a financial issue for her, have her sit down with you and work it out on paper. Sounds too basic probably, but I think if she realized you weren't going to "take food off the table", she might not be so vocal about it. How many of you guys are fully aware of all the monthly expenses/bills? Do you help pay bills, or do you let her do it all? It's a good idea for both of you to know exactly what amount is coming in, and going out. I think if you are the primary bread winner you should have a say in how you spend some of the extra, however, you never want to flat out say "I make it, I'll spend it how I like!" Not cool! I'm sure you can work out some kind of "savings" idea that will make you both happy.
I do the savings thing. I started that about 2 years ago because my wife was spending all of the money we would normally spend on recreation on my daughter. My daughter is real big into dance and my wife has let it go to her head. It seemed that the sky was the limit when it came to spending money on costumes, competitions, and such. That left my son and me sitting at the house doing nothing because we were litterally always to broke to afford to do anything. The funny part was when it came to dance we always had plenty of money. I solved this problem with my own payroll deducted savings account. Works great!
Isaiah 40:31 "but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."
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Re: In the Dog House
[Re: lakewaydr50]
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10/08/08 01:25 PM
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Big Orn
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I have said it before - the man is the Head of the Household - responsible for everything, not just some things. Take charge of everything and let her be the Boss. It works better than you can ever imagine.
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