In the winter, I like a Sig Ultra Compact 1911. In the summer, I like a Sig P938.

A kimber ultra cdp might fit

3". Lightweight alum frame

Mild recoil

For All Metal ^^ THIS ^^

Shoot the biggest caliber you can most accurately shoot and conceal

Shoot metal and polymer pistols. Either one suits me fine. Had a Kimber and sold it. It was everything I expected and more. It was ONE of the most accurate guns I've shot. Running second to a P220. I've also carried a PM9 for a while and it was pretty accurate for what it is.

If you don't shoot often, change that. Practice as much as you can. Be aware of what you are doing with the gun and how you are holding it. Practice dry firing. Have someone give you an unloaded pistol while you are at the line. You'll see just how much you flinch.

Take in as much info as you can. I myself prefer the feel of an all metal pistol but if I were to pick any pistol to take to a gunfight, it would most likely be polymer.

Unless I could just scare them off with my S&W 500. Lol

I have to agree with the your not holding the gun properly crowd. ive seen small women master full size glocks with no probs at all, but they had training in how to shoot them. find a hand gun training facility like vx marksmanship in Alvarado. im sure withing a few lessons, you will be able to very comfortably carry, draw and shoot accurately, multiple shots within 1 sec...