I like heavy hitters but need some weight to reduce recoil. Not because I’m weak but more for accuracy and getting back on target. I have a few 10mm but all are 1911 frames less a Sig 220. I’ve actually thought about a Glock 20, similar size as the XDM, but haven’t found one reasonably priced during the mess we’re in.
I am curious about the review and accuracy of the XDM though.
I have a G20 and it's larger and heavier than a XDM. I love it, and it is a little snappy but not horrible -- nothing like a 357mag, 44, etc.. The biggest problem I have with 10mm is it will play havoc on your ears. My G20 is my sidearm at the lease in case I run across pigs. I don't have time to put in ears when we come across one unexpectedly, and it's painfully loud