Stingy Neighbor

I hunt a small farm of 80+ acres and have "neighbors" to the south who lease 500. They live up in the metro mess and usually only one in 4 weekends a year. I made attempts early and often to contact them and was able to meet them once during a hunting season a few years ago. I'll text them if I'm seeing activity along our shared fence-line, crossings, day/night pictures, big bucks, turkeys, ets. I only receive texts from one of the guys and he's always quick to respond. The other guy, not so much.

Last weekend, I get a text from the one I never hear from asking if I knew anybody that had a tracking dog. I got back with him and told I found a local guy who was going to charge him $100 (no find) $200 (find) and would be there in about 15 minutes. (Note: I did not know him personally but found him through other hunters).

Cricket......cricket...... I never heard back from him. I called several times to make sure he had the number and gave his number to the tracker, still never heard back. Every time I called, his son answered and said he was on the phone with his wife. I even offered to get a few hunters to go look for the deer but he "didn't think that was necessary". I sent several texts asking him to make contact with the tracker but never heard anything. Finally, I sent him a message asking him, out of courtesy, to contact the tracker as he was waiting. Never heard from him. I did contact the tracker and apologized for the jerk.....turns out he never even called the tracker himself.

Is it too much to ask to not be a jerk after all I've done is try and help them? He never returns texts/calls until he needs something in a frenzy. And when I actually ce through and try to help him, he punks out.

Any who.....neighbor rant over.

Sounds to me I would let him go about his owen buisness and find out his owen info if he needs it. Sounds like he doesnt need your help after all. Just deal with the good guy.

Some folks are just sorry...and selfish. Good on ya for trying to help

Did you try to call the other guy? The one that responds?

Yes. He still got back with me and we exchange text a few times a week. (Just rcvd a text from him now)

I think I'll just concentrate on the good guy.

He said they didn't use the help bc any guests had to sign a waiver....but I would have too. Just hit me funny that he didn't use the help that was offered.

Then why ask for the help if you aren't going to use it? Or at least tell you that he couldn't use the help after all...

That kind of stuff bothers me. I am one that is willing to help with whatever I can and will jump for just about anyone. But if I get a call, I expect my help to be needed so I don't waste my time. Problem is that I will call in favors for others and hate to waste them on a dimwit like that.

"That kind of stuff bothers me. I am one that is willing to help with whatever I can and will jump for just about anyone. But if I get a call, I expect my help to be needed so I don't waste my time. Problem is that I will call in favors for others and hate to waste them on a dimwit like that."


I couldn't agree more with this statement. I have problems with calling in favors for people that always seem to come back and bite me in the butt....

Sounds like a jerk off anyway. I hate that you have neighbors like that

Yeah I don't mess with people like that I wouldn't bother with him.

The excuse was that any visitor would have to sign a waiver.....but how could I be any different? I know it sounds petty but I make an effort to know my hunting neighbors whether they like it or not. I probably share too much in tactics but any success out here is welcomed.

If the roles were reversed, I'd take any help that was offered, especially if I asked for it.

The fences are there for a reason.

I'm not sure I understand the problem. Why was it so important that he call you back after you passed along the contact info? I would spend anymore time worrying about it.

Sounds like you want to be overly involved with the neighbors. Personally, I wouldn't want to be constantly involved with the neighbors, hearing from them all the time and getting a bunch of texts. If I were to ask if someone knew someone with a tracking dog, Id expect them to pass along info if they have it and Id either call that person or not. Im friendly with my neighbors, if they need something, they can get ahold of me and if I need something, I know they will help. But a constant bombardment of texts and etc is not wanted on either side. That's just how I am though.

X's 2? And how does that make the neighbor "stingy"?

He didn't call anybody. He asked for help and after several phone calls and rounding up a tracker (which he asked) he didn't use any of the help that was offered nor call the tracker for a "thanks anyway". I know it isn't much but I went out of my way to help. It looks bad on me that I had a deer to be tracked and asked for help from the tracker (who was ready to go) but the requested help was refused from the neighbor.

I'm not trying to be involved, he involved me.

I'm not losing any sleep over it, just between neighboring hunters, my expectations were higher.

As for being stingy, he didn't want anybody on the land, he just wanted to use a dog.

It has taken me awhile to compile the list but there are just certain people who only call when they want something for nothing. That's the ONLY time you ever hear from them. There is a stack of pink phone message deals in my office about 2 inches high covering about 5 years in my office from those folks' calls.

My list just went up by one. Sound advice.

He didn't ask you for help, just if you knew someone with a dog. You gave him a name, then bombarded him with calls and text. What do you think he is thinking about "his" neighbor now? I didn't read where he asked you to contact a dog handler? If he decided to not use one, why would he even call the guy?

Kinda agree with this. If someone isn't responding to your text do not keep blowing up their phone.

He did ask for my help and needed a dog.
He asked me to find help to find a dog.
Oh never mind.

Some guys aren't worth trying to help...I'd politely turn him down...every time

Simple fix, block his number so that he can't call you anymore

When he heard it was $200 it might have changed his mind. It would mine.

OK, I didn't read that in your start, just read he asked if you knew of someone with a tracking dog..Might have been one of those "you had to be here" kind of things. All I know is, if helping a neighbor is to be reciprocal, then both have to be on the same page, not everyone is going to get along though.