Has it always been that .357 magnum rounds won't fit in .38 special, or is that a relatively recent safety feature?
The 357 Mag is a longer round than a 38 spc, and should not chamber in a 38 spc chamber. If the pistol is a 38 spc, the 357 mag round will slide into the revolver's cylinder, but will not close due to the length. The 38 spc is a 16K-17K psi round, where the 357 Mag is about a 32K-34K psi round (about double the pressure).
Firing the 38's in a 357 mag is fine. Yes, if you shoot these often, there will be a build up in the cylinder that will make chambering the 357 mag ammo difficult. But a simple cleaning of the cylinder will easily fix it when you want to shoot 357 mag. I shot many rounds of 38's in my 357 with good accuracy. They make a great plinking round for practice.