It depends on the hunt, as to if it bothers me on a dog not retrieving.
Most of the wild quail we hunt it's no big deal, as long as the dog will hunt dead.
On the canned pheasant hunts, or tower shoots, its a different story. Some of the customers are great shots, and some not as good. I'm not complaining, as my shooting could be better. But I want my dog to retrieve on those hunts. Nothing changes your mind like having to walk 50 yards through a muddy cornfield to pick up a bird.
Shopping with your husband is like hunting with the game warden.
Experience is what you get, when you didn't get what you wanted.