Giving up is always an option. When things get tough, quitting is typically the easiest decision.

Finding other options is another. Looking at lease search engines, finding out all the public land and draw hunts available in your area is another. Since you are military, there are options there too that others aren't privy too. Small game hunting is available in various locations. Reasonably priced doe and hog weekend hunts could be a great option if funds are limited.

Finding a good lease is difficult and takes a lot of time and networking to find the right place. There is always the option of finding a smaller place and leasing the place out so you can let your kids do what you want.

Good luck in your decision