Ok, she's a pretty tough kid. Not afraid or tentative. Would you suggest taking her to a range that will let me rent a gun and let her shoot to try it out? I feel like I know the answer to that. But in case you have other suggestions I am gonna ask
Frisco Gun Club has a ton of rental guns, not sure where you're at.
I think it's more a deal of letting your daughter actually hit something starting out. The double action, .22 revolver is best. Then move to a .22 semi auto. She needs to understand sight picture and trigger control and a .22 is the only way to do this. When she see's little yellow splotches on a shoot n see target, this will giver her confidence. When she is ready, move her to a full size .38 or 9mm.
The pocket .380 has its place but not in a beginner's hands no matter HOW tough she is. They just are not accurate enough and with the very sharp, whippy recoil, they are NO FUN to shoot. There is a time for fun shooting and a time for defensive shooting
Find some instruction and take small steps.
BTW, my favorite .380 would be a single action 1911 style auto. The LCR's, Berreta Pico's, etc, have a TERRIBLY long a hard put, a perfect recipe for missing. The Sig and Colt packet .380's are the ticket.
These are all MY OPINIONS, take them for what they are..
If you ever come to Frisco, give me a holler, I will give you a range pass for your daughter.